December 4, 2013 § 14 Comments
That I spent so much time staring into the middle distance, neglecting the scenery of the near distance and far distance.
That I did not admit I thought “Gravity” was stupid because people would think I was talking about gravity, the force.
That in my twenties I dated many a low-tide organism believing their personalities could be worked on later.
That I didn’t live in the now, except on my deathbed which kind of sucks at the moment.
That I did those glute exercises that were supposed to make them smaller but instead made them into monsters that terrified a small Japanese town before they were destroyed by a missile.
That I didn’t stop and pet more ugly dogs and let them drag their grateful tongues down my face and wear that sticky sheen like a Boy Scout badge.
Same for lepers.
That I let booze, drugs and prostitutes fill the empty void when Facebook was free.
That I watched the video “Blurred Lines” just once, but God saw.
That I never once shot a bottle rocket into a children’s choir.
That I did not train a bunch of squirrels to form a ball and put them under my shirt and tell my mother I was pregnant and did she want to feel the baby kick.
That I didn’t finish my antibiotics and now everyone’s going to die.
That I used plastic and now everyone’s going to die.
That I was not a vegan and now everyone’s going to die.
That I regularly took the 405 instead of just shooting myself.
That I did not lovingly raise a Siberian Tiger and teach it to attack only when it hears a toilet training story from a new parent.
That I was not less tolerant.
That my mother outlived me and spent my money on a suicide vest to wear to a PETA meeting.
That “you can’t take it with you” also applies to this morphine drip.
August 31, 2013 § 18 Comments
This past week, my mother has been at Burning Squirrel, a pagan ritual in Louisiana where elderly Southern women drink margaritas and dance before a large burning squirrel effigy in the hope that, in the coming season, the squirrels spare their garden vegetables and don’t strip their pecan trees.
My mother, of course, denied that this is where she was going, even though I could see the body paint peeking through the polyester sleeve of her blouse.
“I’m not going to Burning Squirrel,” she said. “And if you think I’d join that bunch of squirrel-butt-kissers and window-box gardeners begging some heathen varmint god not to raid my tomatoes, you’ve got another thing coming. I’ve got a shotgun. That’s my form of prayer.”
“Swear you’re not going.”
“I swear on my Uncle Luther’s grave.”
“You hated Uncle Luther. In fact, I hear you spat on his grave.”
“That was a beautiful funeral” she admitted. “But I’m telling you I’ve never been to Burning Squirrel. I’m going to the great annual Southern Women’s Bridge Tournament and Outraged Disapproval of Youth Culture Extravaganza.”
“Sure you are.”
“We’ll be having a mock twerking competition to the music of the great Tennessee Ernie Ford. And if you’re writing that stupid blog again, don’t think you can use terms like ‘twerking’ or ‘blow me’ and think I won’t look them up on Wikipedia and box your ears good.”
“I won’t,” I promised.
“And don’t have me do ridiculous things like pretending my hands are pistols and twirling them around the air like Yosemite Sam,” she added, as she made pistols with her thumb and forefinger and twirled her hands around in the air like Yosemite Sam.
“Now get out my way. I’ve got to finish packing for Burning Squ — Burning Bridge. The bridge tournament.”
“You’re going to Burning Squirrel and you know it. Remember when you came back last year with your blouse worn out in the elbows and your flapper shoes scuffed at the tips and the front of your home permanent singed?”
“That was a tough tournament.”
That was from HOURS OF SUPPLICATION BEFORE A SQUIRREL-SHAPED CLUMP OF BURNING MESQUITE BRANCHES IN THE HOPES YOUR PECAN CROP WOULD BE SPARED AND YOU KNOW IT!!
“Nonsense! I’m a Christian woman and an upstanding member of Sinners Vamoose United Methodist church.”
“Then explain this!” I shouted, opening her suitcase with a flourish to reveal a margarita machine, two pairs of clean socks, and Desperate, her calico cat, who looked up at us indifferently.
I glared at my mother. “Don’t tell me you were going to sacrifice Desperate this year.”
“Fine, fine,” she said as Desperate jumped out. “The squirrel god would have been pleased with such a fat and furry sacrifice, but never mind. I’ll just use a signed first edition of one of your novels.”
“So you admit you’re going.”
“Yes, I’m going! When you have a garden, you do what it takes. Besides, I’m going to win the volleyball competition this year. I have the vertical leap of a cheetah.”
Just then, I looked out the sliding glass doors and saw a squirrel furtively tiptoeing toward her pecan tree.
My mother ran to the door, wrenched it open and screamed: “BLOW ME, SQUIRREL BASTARD!”
The squirrel froze, his eyes two terrified saucers, until a brave comrade darted out, grabbed him under the arms and dragged him away.
My mother looked at me. “Just getting it out of my system.”
She zipped up her suitcase. “See you in a week. And make sure that damn calico doesn’t jump the fence.”
(Burning man image © Aaron Logan)
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Twerking is a dance move that involves a person, usually a woman, sliding back and forth in a graceful movement resembling a waltz or box step. Twerking is only done by the highest classes and is a gesture of refinement, good breeding, and music appreciation.
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedi
Blow Me is a southern expression used mostly by women of a certain age to politely tell a squirrel to vacate a garden, pecan tree or fruit-bearing bush.
The word “Blow Me” come from the Latin Word contraction of “Blowus Meus“, or “Squirrel Be Gone.”
August 19, 2013 § 12 Comments
Lizzie Borden took an ax, and gave her mother forty whacks/ When she saw what she had done, she gave her father forty-one.
What could have possibly driven the New England spinster to murder her parents on that fateful day in 1892? Recently I did some research on that infamous crime, and realized something: She killed her parents on August 16. The height of summer.
I have carefully reconstructed the events of that day, when a trip to Macy’s and a book on oceanography collided with truly morbid consequences:
August 4, 1892
Lizzie Borden heads to Macy’s on a horse-drawn wagon and is ushered into the swimsuit department, where she finds rack after rack of mismatched bikini tops and bottoms. The tops are too small, and the bottoms are in that V-shape that threatens an inexorable crack-crawl that will begin the moment they are drawn around the buttocks, but collectively the bright colors and cheerful labels mumble promises of glamour.
The Scopes Monkey trial, and its bold assertion that finding just the right swimsuit is an evolutionary process originating in simian groups, is a mere thirty-three years away.
Lizzie selects several items and skulks into a room to try them on. Macy’s, a true pioneer in the art of crushing self-esteem, has already installed dressing room mirrors that add ten years and twenty pounds. In the coming years, all other department stores will follow their lead.
The lighting is grim, eye-deadening, flaw-exposing, reaching past the epidermal layer to expose the future trail of each varicose vein that will emerge in the coming decades. This lighting will later be used at the Nuremberg trials and, still later, on The View.
On the walls of the dressing room, the maddened fingernails of women who tried on swimsuits in years past have scratched messages like “Tell Albert I love him,” and. “Please help me put out my own eyes.” And down near the carpet, as though clawed by a prone woman with her last strength, is written: “I swear to God it’s water weight.”
Lizzie hangs her purse on the hook and begins to undress. Finally she stands in nothing but a pair of Chlorox-spotty granny panties, staring at her own reflection. She is not an obese woman or even a heavy one. But in this magically evil mirror, in this chamber where the self unravels like a Walmart scarf in a tornado, she finds herself pale and enormous. Her breasts, supple and proud by dawn light of that same day, have slumped downwards and now rock gently as she shakes her head in disbelief. Her hips have settled. Her post-pregnancy weight has come back, even though she has never been pregnant.
She slides on the first bikini. The bottoms slump over her pelvic bone, exposing a large bristle of pubic hair no man has ever breached, and she feels the fabric across her hindquarters make an effortless slide toward her crevasse. Meanwhile, the bikini top manhandles her breasts like a TSA agent groping for contraband Xanax.
Each bikini she tries on brings its own indignities. Lizzie stares at herself, fighting back tears, certain that she will remain a spinster forever, certain that the time she slept naked and her cat went under the covers, stretched sleepily and accidentally fisted her will be the closest she will ever come to sexual intimacy.
She has just tried on the last bikini when she senses a presence. She glances in the mirror and finds that two winsome boy-girl twins, about six years old, have craned their heads under the dressing room door and are staring up at her.
“Dear God,” says the boy. “What is that?”
“It’s a bikini,” says the girl.
“But why does it leave mounds of cellulitic cheek-flesh exposed?”
“The fabric has taken refuge in the crevasse.”
“That reminds me of the time a hurricane drove one of grandfather’s work shirts off the clothesline and up the hind quarters of his favorite dray mule. It took three strong men to pry it out.”
Lizzie cannot bear it anymore. She aims a large foot at their heads and lashes out savagely, expecting to feel the satisfying crunch of twin-flesh but instead connecting with empty air as the children beat a hasty retreat.
Lizzie quickly abandons the final bikini and turns to the last refuge of those who linger like cornered queens on the chessboard of retail fashion: the one-piece.
She stands looking at herself. She doesn’t look too bad, she decides. Perhaps she will walk away with her last shred of dignity intact.
Then she realizes that the mirror can be unfolded into a three-way.
“No, no, not the three-way, you self-sabotaging fool,” hiss the ghosts of women past.
But Lizzie does it anyway, though even as she unfolds the creaking mirror she can hear three-way mirrors unfolding one by one in the other dressing rooms, followed by screams and the thumps of bodies hitting the floor for a round of desperate crunches.
Studying her body from all sides in the three way mirror, Lizzie feels her last modicum of self-belief whirling down some unseen drain.
Just then, she hears the voices of the heinous twins, who are once again peering at her under the door.
“I hope I don’t look like that from behind,” says the girl.
“Nonsense,” says the boy. “It’s all about genetics. We are Paltrows, a wonder tribe of tall, lithe, fatless blondes living on acai berries and denatured silkworms. Generations from now, we will annoy people with our self-righteous juice cleanses and vegan colonics. But the pale, amorphous parents of this poor woman are no doubt to blame for how she looks in that three-way mirror, which is an absolute and faithful, Honest-Abe reflection of how she looks in real life.”
“My parents are to blame,” Lizzie murmurs, nearly fainting from the damning realization. “Of course. It makes total sense. I should murder them with an axe.”
She tears the tag off her swimsuit and throws her shirtwaist dress on over it, fleeing the dressing room.
“Here,” she says as she hands the tag to the clerk, “I’m wearing the swimsuit under my dress.”
“Would you like to open a Macy’s account? You can get 10% off today’s purchase.”
“No, I have too many credit cards. Besides, I’m going to go home and murder my parents with an axe.”
“Oh,” the clerk laughs, “If I had a dime for every woman who comes out of that dressing room wanting to murder someone, I’d be a rich for sure!”
“You don’t understand. I have a specific plan to give my mother forty-whacks, and then once I see what I have done, to give my father forty-one.”
“If you ask me, dear, anything over twenty whacks is overkill. Now, do you want your receipt in the bag?”
Lizzie’s father, a property developer and president of the Union Savings Bank, sits reading his coffee table book of oceanography.
“Something’s wrong with Lizzie,” he says to his wife. “She’s grown distant. Cold. She barely acknowledges me.”
“She’s a teenager,” says Mrs. Borden.
“You should try being warmer to her,” she advises. “More playful. Maybe give her a nickname.”
“Yes. My father’s nickname for me was Little Squirrel.”
Just then, Lizzie enters. Her hair is a bit disheveled. Eyes a bit wild. Anyone standing behind her would notice, through the fabric of her dress, the seams of her swimsuit bottom sliding ominously toward the crevasse.
Her father takes a quick glance down at his book and then back at Lizzie and says, “Hey, there… Orca.”
His wife shoots him a withering look.
Lizzie stares at him a long moment.
“I’m going to my room,” she says finally, and disappears up the stairwell.
“Now look what you’ve done,” Mrs. Borden scolds her husband.
“You called her a whale!”
“I called her an Orca. They’re the lions of the sea. I’d have been proud if my father had ever taken the time to thumb through an oceanography book and give me an aquatic nickname.”
“Go apologize to her. Women are very delicate after they have gone swimsuit shopping.“
“Fine, fine. I’m the bad guy. Everyone dog-pile on the father.”
He stands up.
“Wait,” says the mother. “I’ll go with you. You’ll just screw it up.”
He mounts the stairs two at a time, his wife close behind. He tries out new nicknames for his daughter as he ascends.
“Come on Libster,” he calls. “Daddy didn’t mean it!”
“Come on Liz-dog!”
“Come on Lizzorama!”
“Come on Little Squirrel!”
August 8, 2013 § 4 Comments
“You’re not good enough,” I told my inner critic. “And you will never amount to anything.”
“Wait, what?” She cried. “ I’ve been doing my job, calling you a hack and stuff.”
“A hack and stuff,” I repeated. “What are you, fourteen? My friend Dawn has the most awesome inner critic. Her critic quotes Rumi when she tells Dawn how bad she is, and uses complicated phrases and lovely metaphors and verbal gymnastics. Which is probably why Dawn jumped off a bridge yesterday. Sadly she took her inner critic with her. I wanted that magnificent beast for myself. Instead I have you. Trite, hackneyed, ineloquent you.”
“I can make you jump off a bridge!”
“You could not make me jump off a doghouse. You are simply a terrible inner critic, your work means nothing and you might as well just give up.”
“I don’t know what I’m doing wrong, I really try to criticize you and tear you down! What happened to our beautiful relationship?”
“I don’t know. It used to be so natural. To talk about forever. But used-to- be’s don’t count anymore. They just lay on the floor til we sweep them away.”
“That’s beautiful,” murmured my inner critic.
“That’s Barbara Streisand and Neil Diamond, idiot!” I screamed. “You don’t deserve to be in the murky radioactive seawater of my hindbrain or in the bottom of my glass of straight tequila. Your insults are as weak and flabby as the colon of a dead squid. Why don’t you spend a few days with my mother? Maybe you’ll learn something.”
“That’s just mean,” said my inner critic.
“Go away,” I said. “I have to write.”
She leaned in close and whispered, “This is all a cruel façade. None of the men from the pool of twenty-five will love you after the cameras have stopped rolling, and at least half of them are gay.”
“Wow,” I said. “Channeling the latest Bachelorette’s inner critic. You are getting desperate.”
August 1, 2013 § 12 Comments
I suppose I should have called someone. Child protective services, or the police.
But I just couldn’t be bothered because the orphan gang that came to my house each week for food and liquor seemed self-sustaining.
There were about a dozen of them, somewhere between the ages of three and eleven.
Finally I asked for their stories.
“What happened to your parents?” I asked. “Did they die, or throw you out?”
“No,” said Dorcas, the leader, who rode a Ripstik and had a safety pin through her eyebrow. “We all left. We couldn’t take our parents anymore. We were too embarrassed to be their kids.”
“What did your parents do?”
“They named me Dorcas. After a Shakespeare play. I used to hear them laughing about it at dinner parties, saying it would make me special. After unsuccessfully attempting to slit their throats in their sleep, I packed a bag and left.”
“Our parents named us Suri and Apple,” said two little girls. One of them held a baby. “And this is North. We rescued her last night in a daring raid.”
“How about you?” I asked three toddlers who looked exactly alike.
“Our mother takes up the whole bike path with our three-seater stroller like she owns the entire beach,” one explained. “Also, she changes us in restaurants. We got tired of the dirty looks. Tired of having an entitled asshole for a mother. So we split.”
“My parents enrolled me in a $25,000 a year private school, starting in pre-school,” spoke up a boy. “They had to take out a second mortgage to give me the best education available in the state. And I’m dumb. Dumb as a rock. They could have taken that money and fed it to a pack of berserk goats and it would have gone to better use. I just couldn’t live with parents that stupid.”
A somber faced girl of about five said, “Everything I did, my parents squealed and clapped and said I was adorable. Every shitty picture I drew, they said should be in a museum. I realized I would grow up to be insufferable, and have no character, and live in their basement, and turn thirty-five and draw pictures of crows. I didn’t leave a note when I ran away.”
One child, no more than three, a winsome boy with flowing curls, could only repeat, “Daddy wears Crocs.”
“So wait a second,” I asked the orphan gang. “You weren’t abused? You weren’t neglected? You ran away simply because your parents were…”
“Dipshits,” finished a girl of about six with several competing dimples. “My mother had an active twitter feed and a blog about my potty training called What a Big Girl. That jackass left me no choice. She’s just lucky I didn’t burn the house down on my way out.”
“Anyway,” said Dorcas, lighting a cigarette, “We’ve got to go. The lady down the street mixes us margaritas on Wednesdays.” She took a drag and then passed it to the triplets, who each inhaled in turn and exhaled the same perfect smoke ring.
“You know, Orphan Gang,” I said, “I have to say I admire you somewhat.” Out of the corner of my eye I saw one of the tiniest girls slide out my window clutching two silver candlesticks. “Even though apparently you’ve robbed my house while we’ve been talking. “
Dorcas hopped back on her Ripstik and the others followed. I noticed they had trampled my grass, and stripped my kumquat tree of fruit. I didn’t really care. I liked their style.
May 27, 2013 § 9 Comments
Stevie Nicks: Hello LA!
Drunken high LA crowd: PRIMAL SCREAM
Lindsey Buckingham: Here we are 40 years later, still milking our drama for profit!
Mick Fleetwood: I’m still crazy! Look, my eyes are rolling! Funny!
John McVie: My hands are permanently frozen in the bass playing position! I walk around looking like I’m holding the stiff body of a treasured pet that was hit by a truck!
Christine McVie: I’m not here! I’m in England! Lose my number!
Lindsey: Stevie, I love/hate/mostly hate you!
Stevie: Die, Lindsey! I love you!
Lindsey: We’re going to play some new material now.
Drunken High LA Crowd: GROAN, LONG TOKE ON SMUGGLED-IN BONG, GULP OF WARM BEER WASHING DOWN FAILED, SCALPED ECSTACY TABS.
Lindsey: Kidding! We’re going to play something from Rumors. We are frozen in time!
Drunken High LA Crowd: YAY!
Stevie: I wrote this next song in 1974 sitting on a mound of cocaine. It’s where I did my best thinking. It was originally called “Lindsey Buckingham is Satan, if Satan had Freakish Dwarf Testicles and No Eyelids or Soul.” I later shortened it to, “Dreams.”
DHLAC: NOSTALGIC COLLECTIVE SHUDDER.
Lindsey: Hey Stevie, remember the time I gave you an oleander twig and told you it was nature’s toothbrush?
Stevie: We still laugh about that one.
Mick Fleetwood: Is it time for my drum solo?
John McVie: I’m still playing bass in the shadows!
Christine McVie: I’m still not here!
John McVie: It’s dark and cold!
Lindsey: I wrote this for Stevie in 1976. It was originally called, “Have Some More Cocaine, Whore.” I later shortened it to “Go Your Own Way.”
Mick Fleetwood: You guys were crazy! But not as crazy as my eyes! Watch them roll down memory lane!
DHLAC: WARM BEER! MERCHANDISE!
Lindsey: We’re gonna play something from Tusk…
DHLAC: OMINOUS BUZZING LIKE THE EAST COAST LOCUSTS
Lindsey: Hahaha no, we mean Rumors!
Stevie: I call this one: “Lindsey Buckingham is Double Evil, Like Monsanto Crop Circles.” Later I shortened it to “Gold Dust Woman.”
Lindsey: I’m gonna come over during Stevie’s solo and play with her hair so you idiots will think we’re back together.
DHLAC: AHHHH THEY’RE BACK TOGETHER!
Stevie: We’ll ride this stupid horseshit narrative right into another kajillion dollars!
Lindsey: Even though I’m married to another woman and have three kids!
DHLAC: TOUCH HER BUTT! TOUCH HER BUTT!
(Lindsey touches her butt)
DHLAC: AHHHHHH THEY’RE FLIRTING! THEY’RE LIKE ROMEO AND JULIET!
Stevie: If Romeo was a megalomaniac bipolar devil who reeked of sulfur and killed puppies!
Lindsey: And Juliet had a 666 on her neck and ate Romeo’s life force while pretending to love him!
DHLAC: HATE MEANS LOVE! YAY! BATHROOM LINES! BEER! LEAVE DURING THE FINAL SONG AND BEAT THE TRAFFIC! YOU STEPPED ON MY BIRKENSTOCK! DID YOU FEEL THAT EARTHQUAKE? I AM LEASING A TESLA!
Stevie: I’m gonna try a twirl now. Someone get my twirl-spotters.
(Twirl-spotters take stage. Stevie begins slow twirl while Lindsey begins blistering guitar solo)
Mick Fleetwood: I’m crazy!
John McVie: It’s so dark!
Christine McVie: I’m still not here!
May 11, 2013 § 26 Comments
My mother and I are on a tree-stump dotted lake in a johnboat powered by a hamster on a wheel. We are fishing, if that’s what you call it. She casts right into a bush.
She’s mad at me today.
“Why did you put on your blog that I was tasered at a cock fight? I have never been tasered. I have never been to a cockfight.”
“I liked the way it sounded.”
She picks up another fishing pole and casts again. The hook catches on the long hair of a winsome child playing on the bank and drags her into the water.
“There you go again,” she says. “Exaggerating, if not outright lying.”
“Well, it’s true that you like to fish with at least two poles at once,” I say. “And you do tend to get your lines tangled up and you do cast like a maniac.”
She picks up another fishing pole and casts once again. The hook flies into an American flag outside the federal building, dragging it down to half staff and plunging the country into bewildered mourning.
“You’re doing it again,” she says.
“I’m a writer.”
“You’re an idiot.”
“That’s a good one. I’ll have it write it down.”
“I wish you would not. Also, I wish you would not have written that I was so poor as a child I had to work as a canary in a coal mine. And that I was once a coyote dentist. And that I hunt squirrels in my garden with a shotgun. And that I called Elder Care on you because when you were in charge of me after my shoulder replacement surgery you let a rat gnaw on me.”
“There’s always a hint of truth in everything. You do hate squirrels. And I did suck as your nurse. And you were poor as a child. And you can flip the bird with your middle toe. Admit it, you know you can.”
“That’s ridiculous,” she says. She lifts her bare foot, flips me the bird and then casts into Antarctica.
“I can’t help that you’ve led a colorful life. You started smoking when you were five, and you knew how to wring a chicken’s neck by the time you were, what, eight? And you really did get in a fight with two girls, one with springy hair, and won by grabbing the smaller one by her springy hair and beating the crap out of the bigger one with her tiny body. This is all true and you know it. And the fact that you can flip the bird with your middle toe is comedy gold.”
“I don’t want to be comedy gold. I want to be a cranky old lady.”
“You manage both splendidly.”
She picks up another pole and casts into Pluto, our most discredited of planets.
“You know what?” I say. “I have this vision. We’re at your funeral. Slowly the coffin lid creaks open and your bare foot rises majestically, four arthritic toes curling back to flip the entire congregation the bird.”
“Please do not write that. Please just let me die with a little dignity.”
“Don’t you understand, though, Mom? I write all these things so you will never die.”
“I’m going to die, Numb Nuts,” she says. “And don’t write that I called you Numb Nuts. I don’t even know what that means.”
“No, no, no. You will never die. Not as long as I have a pen.”
My mother shakes her head sadly. “There are so many things you refuse to understand.” She casts again, and her hook flies back through the years, catching on everything.